The consciousness of loving and being loved brings a warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring. ~ Oscar Wilde
Let me begin by asking you a simple question:
Are You Loved? Truly and completely loved for who you truly are…by yourself and by those around you…
Many of my patients and people I meet feel like they Dont deserve to be loved, even if they are being loved. They believe they have so many flaws, that how could anyone possibly love them.
Everyone deserves love! Love is a divine gift we each possess the spark of. In-fact, we ARE Love.
Everyone on Earth wants to experience and be loved, but with so many struggling relationships and the enormous divorce rate, something is obviously missing. Why are we still not getting it?
LOVE is whats missing.
There is a simple cycle to solving this major issue of struggling relationships. The cycle is:
self love – give love – heal – self love
Notice how ‘give love’ and ‘heal’ are safely tucked in between self love?
We each deserve to be loved, but first and foremost loved by our-self. If we don’t love our-self for who we are, we will never be able to do justice to any of our relationships. And the relationship that suffers the most in this gross in-acceptance is our relationship with our-self.
Your relationship with Your- Self is the longest relationship you will ever have in this lifetime. You might as well, work on that relationship first. We need to infuse happiness and healing into our self, before we can infuse that same happiness and healing into the world around us.
We all want to be completely healed of our past emotional scars. The simplest and only step you need to make the effort for is self love. The whole healing cycle will just follow naturally.
“Fear is the question. Love is the answer.” – Rain Bojangles
I have an admission to make- I have had a string of failed relationships in my past. Its not a fact I admit to normally, nor am I proud of this. But Today, as I have let my ego go, after all I’ve learned, understood, encountered and felt, I know one thing for certain….that all those relationships failed because I wasn’t ‘in self-love’ at the time. Had I been loving towards myself, there are many of those relationships I would’ve never even gotten into. My broken emotional heart at the time wanted to latch onto to anything that looked like love, even though it clearly wasn’t. Every time any of these relationships failed, I would blame myself and think I don’t deserve to be loved.
Today, after a lot of self love and divine intervention I’m whole and healed. I know I deserve love, cause I’m a divine creation meant for it. Today, If after all my giving of healthy love, a relationship still fails, its ok. Its not my fault. I don’t blame myself. Because I know I’ve given all my love in the nurturing of the relationship. And again, if a certain relationship runs its course, the end of it doesn’t distraught me. Infact it gives me a new found clarity about myself and my needs. If the relationship is meant to be, it will be.
My relationship with myself is my guiding force today. I need to be able to look myself in the mirror everyday with a clear conscience and a beaming smile that so so deserves all the love it can get. Giving love and healing become such an amazing by product of self love.
In the Next article I’ll dwell into how we can easily cultivate more self love, so that you too may heal more fully. Click here to stay updated!
What are YOUR thoughts on this topic? Do YOU deserve to be loved? When it comes to self-love, what are your thoughts and experiences on the same? Share your beautiful thoughts in the comments of this article.
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I think the first important step is to accept that we are imperfect beings and will probably always be imperfect beings… i just started focusing on the positives in me.. hard at first but am becoming good at it day by day 🙂
Today I am my own best friend and thats the most secure place I can ever be in coz like you said the relationship we have ourselves will last a life time. 😀
I totally agree with you Tavish. Acceptance of ourselves, flaws and all is the first imperative step to self love. I’m so happy you’re finally getting to love yourself fully. More power to you ❤️
Dear Mam, really its very Nice & inspirational Article on Love, Love is very important for life, we can’t live without love, but though we are loving, honest, caring, nonegostic, but not getting perfect partner, relationship. But still try to become entho, positive.. i want to learn self love, Pls guide me…
I understand how you must feel Nilima. It’s not easy to find the right partner, that’s why you need to first be your own partner and first love. In next week’s article I will be sharing more on how you can add more self love in your life. If you need more personal guidance/counseling please email me at zeenat.syal@gmail.com ❤️❤️❤️
We are all loving and lovable creatures of nature. We all need to remember that. It is important to show love, not only to ourselves but to all others. Love is the number one thing that makes the world go round. Compassion, kindness, it’s all part of love. If we all learned to love, this world would be healed.
I always tell my kids and grandkids to “love all our bits and parts” that make you who you are!
This is so beautiful and I so agree with all that you’ve said. I realize though it doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a long-term healing process, once we need to be engage consciously and regularly. In the stress of the lava eruptions and change they are bringing about here on the Big Island, I find there are moments when I am critical of myself and even hating parts of myself that are more exposed due to the circumstances. So I see I have more work to do and I am committed to doing it. Thank you for the insights and encouragement, Zeenat.
Hi Zeenat
Just sharing your wonderfu post with our audience on our Friday broadcast – great post 🙂
Have a great weekend
Cheers Mark
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On Mon, May 14, 2018 at 5:50 PM, *Positive Provocations* wrote:
> Zeenat {PositiveProvocations.com} posted: ” The consciousness of loving > and being loved brings a warmth and richness to life that nothing else can > bring. ~ Oscar Wilde Let me begin by asking you a simple question: Are You > Loved? Truly and completely loved for who you truly are…by yourse” >