“May you have warmth in your igloo, oil in your lamp, and peace in your heart” ~ Eskimo Proverb
Having grown up in a desert (muscat) all my life, I was never a fan of the warm temperatures there, that could literally burn your skin and make you dehydrated in a matter of seconds. Sun block and Sun glasses weren’t optional there, they were a necessity. But now, after some traveling and being around the cold wintry places of the world, I kind of have come to appreciate the warm temperatures and the sun and all the good energy it brings with it.
As the sun took its rightful place of spreading its warmth all over the world, so did I shed my icy cold feelings this past year.
My focus for this year i.e. 2015 was More love and More warmth in everything I say, do and feel.
Having to focus on warmth came naturally, and also as a surprise. I noticed more colors around me, more beauty around me and most of all, I love how this new warmth brought about a thawing within my heart. There were feelings so frozen cold inside my heart, that refused to surface over the years….this new focus on warmth brought them to surface. The release of which have made me feel lighter and happier.
We all have pent up feelings we don’t acknowledge, until these feelings end up scarring our life, our thoughts, our actions…everything. Having gone through this recently and coming out on the warmer, sunnier, more positive side, I can simply say, please thaw those stuck up and pent up feelings. They might not come out in the most desirable way, but believe me the release is like breaking free from negative anchors that were holding you down.
How to warm those cold pent up feelings?
2 Simple Steps to Open Your Heart to Warmth
Step 1- Identify the feeling- That uncertain discomfort that you feel while in a conversation with a loved one, those feelings you have wanted to convey over the years but haven’t been able to, those moments when after a certain conversation or meeting you are sad or cry inconsolably…these are the signs and feelings that need to be identified. Once you have identified them….think “why have I been holding on to this for so long?”…the answer your heart gives you will astonish you.
Step 2- Release & Forgive- Releasing those cold feelings can be a daunting task. We each have been conditioned to be ‘perfect’. And without even knowing it, we try to be just that. In doing so we don’t say so many things we should and we shove so many feelings within us we shouldn’t.
- If the pent up feelings are towards a person you have been afraid to face, then send them a gentle email or text stating the feeling and tell them, you forgive them(and mean it).
- If the cold feeling is towards yourself, look at yourself in the mirror and say ” I forgive me for…….(fill in the blank with whatever its that you are holding yourself responsible for)
Releasing the cold, negative feelings, WILL free you. Give it a go.
These cold pent up feelings left in the cold too long can create toxic effects on our complete being. From stress, depression to physical aches and pains….are just a few of the toxic effects of pent up feelings. Once you have showed these feelings the warmth by identifying and releasing them….you will realize what amazing parts of your personality come to light with it too.
Self confidence, self healing, self love and creative inspiration are just a few of the benefits of this practice.
Look within, open your heart and let your old, cold feelings bask in the warmth of this amazing Sunlight.
Now its your turn! What are your thoughts on”warmth”? How do you release those cold pent up feelings? Care to share your amazing thoughts in the comments below? 🙂
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8 thoughts on “2 Simple Steps to Open Your Heart to Warmth”
Thank you for this amazing post. I agree wholeheartedly with everything you’ve written.
I once lost a friend I really cared about because I let resentful feelings build up inside of me, and then I let them all out at once destructively. She may not have responded well even if I had shared my feelings gently as they came up, but I’ll never know because I did not handle the festering feelings well.
I am a firm believer in clearing the air with people (respectfully!). It paves the way for true intimacy.
I think identifying an underlying feeling can be the trickiest part. When I feel uncomfortable around someone and am not quite sure why, sometimes I have to reflect on it alone for quite some time before I understand the dynamic. A walk often helps.
Thanks again for this important post.
I love your comment here! You experience with festering feelings and then losing a friend because of pent up feelings says it all doesn’t it?! The negative effect of pent up feelings.
While identifying the feeling can be hard, it get easier when we consciously practice it.
And you are right, intimacy is such a beautiful byproduct of this opening up.
My early morning nature walks are my favorite time to reflect too!
Thank you for your beautiful comment here.
I love the synchronicity of this message, Zeenat! I’ve just been getting in touch with all the ways I wasn’t allowed to have my feelings in specific situations – both in my family and later as an adult. It’s so freeing to see this and to know that I can release this now and be me.
Yay to being YOU! And just so you know, this YOU is darn lovable 🙂
May we all realize this freedom to ‘feel’ and live.
Thank you for your wonderful comment here.
Beautiful Zeenat! Forgiving is so difficult and this is a wonderful exercise. Thank you!
I’m so glad you liked this message. Forgiving is healing 🙂
Thank you for your lovely comment here,
Thanks Zeenat. I still find it challenging at times to identify feelings, though I’m a lot better than I used to be. Much easier to identify them in others! 🙂 I’ve built up a much larger vocabulary of feelings which helps in many ways. Thanks for sharing!
Youre SOOOOO right! So easy to identify those feelings in others(occupational hazard much!) than to work on ourselves.
But yes with time and conscious practice we get better at it.
Thank you for your beautiful comment here.
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